Wednesday, March 9, 2011

we got dumped by Foster Care

Last night we attended the first class of foster care licensing. And last class of foster care licensing.

About 45 minutes into the class, Charlie raised his hand and asked what would happen if we ended up getting a placement from our adoption agency. Would we need to stop the classes, or postpone them until the baby was older?

Bad news. The social worker told us that the we can't work with both a private adoption agency and a public foster care agency. Some state statute or something. Anyway, when there was a break we ended up leaving. There seemed to be no point.

We kind of laughed it off last night, but this morning I was really sad about it. I even cried a little bit, sitting in my cubicle. It just seemed like this would be another possibility, but the reality is we'd have to leave our agency to do it. And we don't want to do that.

So, another door closed. I guess more closed doors just means we have to be getting closer to the open one, right?


Amazing Life said...

praying that the open door is just a few steps away!!!

Ann - Building a Nest said...

I'm so sorry.

JellyBelly said...

I'm praying for you Sissy!

Alison said...

I'm sorry Sissy. I hope there's a huge, wide open door just around the corner.

Colleen said...

Wow. Sissy reading your post hurts so much. My hope is really low right now and this just hurts even more. Sending you a HUG.

RELH said...

ohh my, I amso so sorry!

Bailey's Leaf said...

I'm so sorry.

I'm going to be the voice that other people hate.

I can understand their reasoning for specifying only private or only public and not running both to increase your chances. (Not saying that this was your thing, but just go with me here.) Whenever there was some goofball rule that we had to sign our name on (i.e., we wouldn't prop a bottle, we promised to have the child sit with us at dinner and not shun them and have them eat by themselves, having to file for out of state visiting 2 weeks in advance, every person who watched the child had to be background checked before . . .), there was someone who blazed an unright trail ahead of us causing it.

Most likely, that trail ended in a disrupted adoption.

I'm so sorry that the classes didn't work out for you. Prayers to you.

the misfit said...

Yeah but...if you were fertile...they wouldn't tell you that you couldn't be having unprotected sex and working with a foster care agency, would they? Would they? I'm sure there's a reason. I'm sure somebody even thinks it's a good reason. But I bet if I knew what it were, I wouldn't think it was a good enough reason.

I'm sorry you've had to deal with so many obstacles, and I really really hope that the path runs smooth for you right around the next corner.

KT said...

As we have been looking into foster care a bit too, we have also found that it is not all that simple.